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Before her new memoirWorthyhits stands next week,Jada Pinkett Smithis giving fans a little snippet of what they can expect and some of it is quite surprising.
In a newclipfrom herupcoming exclusiveNBC Newsprimetime special with Hoda Kotb, Jada revealed that she’s been separated fromWill Smithsince 2016.
Will and Jada have been married since 1997 and share two children together — Jaden, 25, and Willow, 22. Jada is also the stepmother to Will’s oldest son, Trey, 30.
Nearly 20 years after tying the knot, they decided to live “completely separate lives.” And while talking with Hoda, Jada confirmed that “it was not a divorce on paper, but it was a divorce.”
News of their 2016 separation was kept private as the two still made public appearances together and openly talked about their marriage in interviews.
During this split, their union also faced several media scandals, includingrumorsof Will getting close to hisFocuscostarMargot Robbie, as well as Jada’sentanglement with singer August Alsina.
First mentions of their separation actually happened during a 2020episodeof Jada’sFacebook Watchtalk show,Red Table Talk, where sheaddressedher relationship with August and how she and Will were “going through a very difficult time.”
Will bestow , " We decided that we were going to separate for a period of time , and you go figure out how to make yourself felicitous , and I ’ll figure out how to make myself happy . "
And when Hoda asked why Jada wasn’t more vocal about their issues and separation throughout the years, she admitted it came down to them “just not being ready yet…still trying to figure out between the two of us how to be in partnership. In regards to, how do we present that to people? We hadn’t figured that out.”
She went on to admit that the reasoning behind theirbreakupwas a culmination of things. They eventually reached a point where trying to fix things in their relationship became tiring.
“Why it fractured? That’s a lot of things," Jada said. “By the time we got to 2016, we were just exhausted with trying. I think we were both kind of just still stuck in our fantasy of what we thought the other person should be.”
During aspecial family episodeofRed Table Talk, where Will was a guest, Jada opened up about feeling like she was living “inauthentically” and “living up to an idea for [Will].” They had to break up within their marriage and rebuild with new rules. They had to go their separate ways to regain their strength and she did it so she could rediscover who Jada is — not her as a mother, not as a wife, but as Jada.
Jada thought about getting a legal divorce, but ultimately she could never go through with it. “I made a promise that there will never be a reason for us to get a divorce. We will work through whatever,” Jada added. “I just haven’t been able to break that promise.”
Both Will and Jada have been adamant about a legal divorce not being the right solution for them and something that they want to avoid as they learn to work through their marital issues.
To learn more about Jada, be sure to watch her fullNBC Newsinterview with Hoda when it airs at 8 p.m. this Friday, Oct. 13.
And don’t forget to checkout her upcoming memoir,Worthy, which hits stores on Oct. 17.
Facebook WatchWill added, “We decided that we were going to separate for a period of time, and you go figure out how to make yourself happy, and I’ll figure out how to make myself happy."
