" The amount of confrontations I ’ve managed to de - escalate just by doing it is quite a minute . "
When we’re younger, it’s pretty common to ignore really valuable advice that older people tend to give because of their life-long experiences. So when Reddit userbritney2004asked: “What’s a piece of advice you received that you initially ignored but later found to be incredibly valuable?” I thought it would be helpful to share their answers. Here’s what they had to say:
1.“Taking care of your back.”
2.“We judge ourselves by our intentions. We judge everyone else by their actions.”
— u / rdkitchens
" A corollary to that : compensate more attending to what people do than in what they say . Talk is tatty , but when energy comes to shove , how mass dissemble shows you a lot of what variety of mortal they are . "
— u / Redmen1212
3.“Floss.”
4.“Your reputation takes years to earn, but only a moment to destroy.”
— u / Individual - Fail4709
" But you have to poise that with being okay to bomb . Chasing flawlessness 24/7 is a recipe for clinical depression . You have to learn how to manage being imperfect and getting a reputation for being capable to spring back from unsuccessful person . "
— u / BonquiquiShiquavius
5.“Don’t go grocery shopping when you’re hungry.”
6.“Cave quid dicis, quando, et cui. Beware of what you say, when and to whom.”
— uracil / ephdravir
7.“Read instruction manuals. Everything from electronics to setting up a tent, you will get so much more out of your things. The one disclaimer, some manuals are shit. So…good luck.”
8.“The associations you keep will inevitably be the qualities you develop.”
— atomic number 92 / Twistedfiles
" I ’ve also find out this in the form of a hypothesis that you are the average of the five the great unwashed you drop the most time with . "
— u / MichaelMaugerEsq
9.“Procrastinating leads to a burden. It’s the root of most problems, whether you are a kid or an adult.”
10.“Be careful with the toes you step on. Might be the ass you’re kissing later. Never experienced it firsthand but have seen it happen with many others.”
— uracil / SuperPotatoThrow
11.“You’ll never convince a narcissist that their behavior is wrong, is abusive, etc. because their ego is too big to admit they are wrong, so there is no use trying.”
12.“Stop worrying about the opinions of people you don’t respect anyway.”
— atomic number 92 / birdie_num - num
" If you would n’t take their advice , do n’t take their criticism . "
— u / DynamicOctopus420
13.“‘The worst thing you can do when someone shouts, is to shout back.’ The amount of confrontations I’ve managed to de-escalate just by calmly talking back."
14.“When I left a cushy and secure job at a television station to freelance in film and TV production services, my father cautioned: ‘Put away 10% of each paycheck for a rainy day.’ I didn’t take his words to heart — and when, shortly after my first anniversary as an independent, the industry slowed to a crawl, I encountered some tough times that I barely survived. I recall that, at my lowest point, I had the next month’s rent in hand — just barely — but no money for food besides a small baggie of pocket change. My heat had been shut off in the middle of an Alberta winter, and I had to ask my father for a loan to pay the gas bill and for groceries. So by the time work eventually picked up again, I had learned my bitter lesson and began to follow his advice assiduously.”
" Forty years later , I retired with a surprisingly well - capitalize retirement report , and rank in a gold - plat secret healthcare program . And in three weeks , for the third straight year , I ’m forsaking cold Canada to winter in Mexico .
In my unseasoned maturity , I suffered through 18 % mortgage rates , 12 % unemployment , and a decennary of stagflation , but I think in many other fashion , youthful people today are facing at least as fraught an economic mood as I did back in ' 81 . And I translate that today , others ’ power to ' put something aside for a rainy mean solar day ' might be more modified than was mine . But I powerfully encourage those who can , to do so . "
— u / theartfulcodger
15.“If your friend or coworker complains about others to you, they are saying bad things about you to other people.”
16."‘If you have to question your integrity on a decision, the answer should be obvious.’ Gramps passed this knowledge right before my whoppings; 20 years later, after first hearing this advice, and I’m lucky he is still here to see the man I’ve become. Any shadow of doubt I have usually made it easier to say no."
— u/1Penny0Thoughts
17.“Don’t be afraid to let family members go if they’re toxic. I learned my lesson the hard way with this one.”
