" I desire my girls to have the aroused tidings to recognize the right and bad that can come from relationships with these type of men in the time to come . I require them train , know their deserving , and living in joyfulness because they are with someone who is doing the study required , " Eric , akagirldad_e , said .
If you’ve been online in the past few weeks, you’ve likely run across the"No Dusty Sons" trend, where moms are going viral for sharing how they’re teaching their sons to share the mental, physical, and emotional load in relationships (which their future partners will surely appreciate).
Well, 34-year-old girl dadEric Taylororiginated his own spin on the video format by sharing how he’s teaching his daughters to avoid men who only offer the bare minimum, and it’s incredibly refreshing.
In hisviral video series, Eric shows himself setting an example for how his two daughters should expect to be treated by any who enter their lives. In oneclip, he’s seen making space and time for his girls to express how they’re feeling, explaining: “Addressing my daughter’semotionsso she knows your dusty son better not try to tell her to ‘calm down.'”
He continues this approach in other videos, such as whenhe’s filmed while trying on apronsand says he’s “vibing with the kitchen section at Home Goods so your dusty son better know cooking ain’t just a woman’s job.”
Other notable highlights include: “Allowing my daughter to finish her thoughts so…your dusty son don’t try to silence her…”
…“Attending tea parties with my daughter so your dusty son don’t try to impress her with Golden Corral…”
…“Doing the bed correct in the morning so my daughter knows your dusty son won’t be another child to take care of…”
…“Teaching my daughter how to center herself because she may have different opinions than your dusty son, and that’s OK…”
…“Celebrating my daughter’s culture every day so she knows your dusty son better take the time to know more than ‘hola’ and ‘tacos…'”
…“Not taking offense when my daughter speaks the truth so she knows your dusty son better not get butt-hurt if she calls him out when he’s wrong…”
…“Teaching my daughter our family budget so she knows your dusty son better be transparent about finances…”
…“Never calling my daughter ‘dramatic’ so she knows that just because your dusty son has the emotional range of a teaspoon, that don’t mean her feelings aren’t valid…”
…“Respecting when my daughter says no so when your dusty son come around foolish, she won’t accept being treated like trash…”
…“Doing the laundry with my daughter so she knows your dusty son better clean and fold his own dirty chonies…”
And finally, “Always having my daughter’s back so your dusty son better support her when his mama wanna act up.”
It’s especially refreshing, they say, to see a father empowering his daughters. “As a woman who grew up with a father who was always there for me and empowered me and still does, I can tell you that this does make an impact,” this user wrote.
When BuzzFeed reached out to Eric to learn more about parenting his 4- and 6-year-old girls, he said, “I want them to know how to respect and know that they deserve respect. I want them to understand love so it doesn’t get confused with anything else this world tries to fake it with. I want them to know they are powerful and brave, so they can make their own way in the world.”
" I call up many of us , and more often women , are raised up thinking that the simple lower limit is okay . That it is normal to be treat less than they merit . Too many men are raised without enough expectations of themselves and the woman they issue forth across , " he continued . " I require my girls to have the worked up intelligence service to recognize the unspoiled and bad that can do from relationships with these eccentric of men in the future . I want them machinate , bed their worth , and experience in joy because they are with someone who is doing the work required to make a home hightail it well . "
And for all the girl dads out there, Eric had this advice: “Recognize who you are. Your flaws, your wins, your quirks, your trauma, your joy, and come to grips with your reality. The things you suck at? Get better. The things you’re good at? Get even better! Most talk about getting your shotgun ready for when your daughter starts dating. I say [raise] your daughter to recognize the good and bad attributes in men so they…can protect themselves because you won’t always be there.”
" Emotional intelligence , overcoming generational trauma , fiscal acumen , there are so many levels to parenting that are substantive for success as an grownup , but I think the most important is build a real relationship , " Eric concluded . " You are the first veridical family relationship your child will ever have . How will you teach them how to love and trust ? … When they blab out about you to their friends or to a young man in the future , what will they say about you as a father ? Who will you be in your child ’s story ? mean about it every 24-hour interval . "
If you’d like to keep up with Eric, you can follow him onTikTokandInstagram.
