" I told her that she is the only one responsible for for her pregnancy and to not make it my problem . "
People always say that raising a child takes a village. It’s helpful to lean on friends, family, and your partner — if you have one — while pregnant. But it looks like one Reddit user,u/Ok_Basket7916, who we’ll call Basket for short, didn’t get that memo.
In a now-viralpostshared to theAm I the Asshole subreddit, Basket relentlessly describes his current living situation, where his pregnant roommate proves to need round-the-clock care. “The girl that I live with, ‘K,’ is pregnant and is due early next year,” he wrote. “Of course she seems excited to have a baby, but at the same time, she has been making her pregnancy my problem.”
Then he lists out all of K’s supposed offenses: “I get that the pregnancy is going to affect her physically in many ways, but K has been a pain in the ass to deal with. I had to throw out all the bananas because she was complaining about how strong the smell was. She isn’t helping with cooking or cleaning as much as she used to.”
" K cry out about almost everything , and it ’s irritating as hell . Her pregnancy is make her vomitive , which I expected , but sometimes , the vomiting is so intense , and once she pretty much projectile vomited on the floor because she could n’t make it to the bath , for which I had to pick puke up . "
“Over the past few months, she has been asking me to get things for her from the store, even on good days when she isn’t feeling sick. When I asked her why she couldn’t just get up and go to the store herself, she said that I’m ‘not the pregnant one,'” he said.
“So, this is where I may be the asshole,” Basket continued. “K has been asking me to drive her to her appointments, which I did once, but then it became a constant thing of her asking me, and I kept refusing.”
" This is what happened the other day . She asked me to take her to the clinic , and I said no , I was busybodied that twenty-four hours . She kept pleading with me , and last , I had enough and kind of snapped . "
“I told her that she is the only one responsible for her pregnancy and to not make it my problem. She needs to stop making it [my problem] by asking me to constantly do favors for her,” he said.
" She started crying , and I left because I could n’t take it anymore . I know I may have been rough to a meaning gentlewoman , but I do n’t palpate like I need to be her personal handmaiden . Am I the asshole ? "
And before you get heated or decide one way or the other, there’s a very key detail that Basket conveniently left out. A commenter asked point blank whether he was the child’s father, to which Basket responded, “Yes.”
" Again , her pregnancy is her responsibility . I ’m hold back for the babe to come so that we could be done with this , " he tried to free . " She is my roommate . I intend , that ’s what she ’s acting like , rather of a married woman . "
" Wow . Way to skew the report in your favour by call your married woman , pregnant with YOUR child , your ' meaning roomy . ' That is so disrespectful to her and your sister , " useru / WittyGarbage59said .
“You’re the asshole for intentionally leaving out the fact that you are married and the father. You knew that would make people not take your side, so you lied. Honestly, I hope she leaves you because you’re a shitty husband, and I can’t imagine you’d be a better father,“u/Low-Attention-1998agreed.
Stunned by the revelation, people revisited Basket’s post and couldn’t believe he said his own wife’s pregnancy — which he took part in — was solely her responsibility.
" YOU impregnate her . That child , and thus the gestation , is as much your responsibility as hers . OF COURSE the father buys food and drives the mom to appointment ; that ’s the bare fucking minimum . She ’s suffer to bring YOUR child into the world . You ’re the asshole for acting this way and for utter of your family like this . You will surely be a fearsome father,“u / WittyGarbage59said .
“Did she get pregnant via immaculate conception? No? Then step up!“u/BabsieAllenadded.
People seriously couldn’t fathom someone treating their wife this way, especially when they’re expecting.
" It is your duty to worry for your married woman , especially in such a hard time . maternity is very different from somebody to person . Your wife is already being sick most of the time , and you expect her to clean up her vomit ? … I understand that it is a hard time for you , too . But believe me , it is hard for her . The other stage of a pregnancy can be more difficult than the later one for some woman , specially with sickness and mood swings and fatigue,“u / EryThrozyt1210said .
Ultimately, everyone hopes that K gets the support she needs — whether that be from her husband, or following a divorce.
" This lady deserves more support . She merit a serious pardner actually . I desire she severalise her phratry and friends how you ’ve been treating her , not to gossip but so they can propose her the comfort and support you refuse to show her,“u / Rohini_ramblessaid .
