We ’ve all been in the situation where you could tell someone ’s own self - consciousness was making them act like a jerk .
Everyone has insecurities about something(s); it’s just part of being human. But sometimes, people overcompensate or project those insecurities by behaving in ways that are downright awful.
And recently, Reddit useru/canyoudoitformehad that in mind when they asked: “What screams ‘I’m insecure’ but most people don’t realize it?”
1.“Ridiculing other people’s achievements.”
— maldevivre
" I had a supporter who used to do this to me . She would even put down my other non - professional achievement in the artistic creation and my other by-line . She is no longer my friend . "
— earthen_heart
2.“Never apologizing. Some people will twist the story, change the way it happened, and retell it so convincingly that they’ll believe their own nonsense but will never apologize.”
— RushBJ
" The ability to apologize is a sign of emotional intelligence activity that I always look for . "
— SunNo1741
3.“Explaining how smart you are.”
— slimy - buddy
" lend up how chic you are immediately make me think you ’re a moron , and you ’re urgently test to convince me you ’re not . "
— henry_b
4.“Constantly talking about their good looks. I have a friend who on her IG is always saying ‘I’m so hot,’ and honestly, it’s making her not hot.”
— growsonwalls
5.“When they can give you shit all day but can’t take it back whatsoever!”
— brunomarchand
" FOR REAL . What about someone who can distinguish you close up so easily but gets instantly pissed the moment you do the same ? "
— Jake420theslut
6.“Boasting, bragging, and constantly telling anyone who will listen how great you are, how successful you are, and how rich you are.”
— loopywolf
7.“Trying to one-up people in every conversation.”
— FlashyWay420
" That ’s nothing . I once knew a guy who wouldtwo - uppeople . "
— svenson_26
8.“People who repeatedly put others down are the most insecure people I know. Like, why do this? Is it worth it for the five seconds of superiority you feel? Don’t you feel any shame? Or empathy? Fucks sake.”
— YouAreHomeNow
9.“Calling yourself ‘alpha male’ or something similar.”
— Various_Squash722
" The second I hear ' alpha / beta / sigma male person ' from anybody who is not talking about wolf packs , I just assume they ’re the kind that lowers the intelligence quotient average . "
— JackHarkN
10.“Never being able to say I don’t know.”
— lordofthecrimson
" Absolutely ! ! ! I consider it not only a sign of confidence but intelligence when you have the ability to say , ' I do n’t know the answer to that , but let ’s find out ! ' "
— K3Elisa
11.“Making someone feel bad for being excited about a thing.”
— Nietzschebots
" And calling that matter they ’re delirious about ' introductory . ' 🙄 "
— Satchel Paige _ _ _ _ _ _ _
12.“When you’re quick to be ‘brutally honest’ with others, but have a meltdown when someone does it back to you.”
— DamagingDawning
" I ’ve never met someone who is ' brutally honest ' and is n’t tenuous - skinned . They hail as a bent . "
— Facelesspirit
13.“Pointing out someone’s flaws as a ‘joke’ or a way to look cool.”
— rightcumi
14.“Flexing about your choice of drink. Having a drink that you like is fine, but people who try to prove that their drink of choice is the only REAL drink just screams: ‘My parents didn’t pay attention to me as a kid!'”
— PsychicJellyfish
" My old Friend used to call me ' gay ' for drinking Bud Light beers . seemingly , they were manly because they were drinking Budweiser . "
— cute_meowing
15.“Getting aggressive when somebody has even a slightly different opinion, and [the] need to ‘correct’ that other person.”
— Thornangdir
16.“Living your life through your kids, never giving them an opportunity to stand on their own. Taking credit for their accomplishments regardless of whether you had any hand in them.”
— antoinebeaver
17.“Insulting your friend in front of others to be cool.”
— skunk_weed
" Or spouse / partner . I immediately outstrip myself from people like that . "
— gorillavstiger
18.And lastly, “Never admitting they’re wrong. There’s always an excuse, or it was someone else’s fault, or they were working off bad information, or you misinterpreted what they were saying. Word of advice to anyone out there: ‘I was wrong, my bad’ goes so much further than any spin doctoring.”
— Brand_News_Detritus
You can read the full thread of responses onReddit.
Note : Some responses have been edited for duration and/or clarity .
