" Over time , I note that the masses who had hard lives were often the one who were super into things like office Christmas or natal day parties . "
Recently, Reddit useru/citizen_of_leshpasked the people ofr/AskReddit, “What is a subtle sign that someone’s life sucks?”. We thought we’d share the best responses:
1.“They don’t get excited to go home after work, or find reasons to stay at work longer.”
— uranium / noob_nooberson
" Oh , man . I had a ally FaceTime me the night before Thanksgiving at around 10 PM from her office . She was ' repot plants ' . She ’d been through a messy divorcement with hands issues and I guess being with her own kid was not an choice . I felt tremendous for her then and even more so now . "
— u/_chareth - cutestory
2.“I worked in a large office environment for 30+ years and over time I observed that the people who had hard lives were often the ones who were super into things like office Christmas or birthday parties.”
" I think it was often the only celebration they get to be part of . "
— u / FinnbarMcBride
3.“Also, people who spend a lot of money on Halloween, Christmas, and birthdays.”
" I think it ’s part the instant gratification and part wanting to give their kid one gloriously glad daytime in a pool of shitty other ones . "
— uranium / CuriousElk1
4.“When they look for happiness in other people, and their whole day can be ruined if a certain person says or does something that they don’t like.”
— u / fir2nino
5.“They have advice — good advice — for people who’ve just experienced trauma. Or for how to handle oddly specific and fucked up situations.”
— u / Wandoothepo
6.“They’re very interested in what you’ve got going on, but don’t really share about themselves.”
— uracil / provoloneChipmunk
7.“If you ask them what their life would look like in a perfect world, they can’t even come up with an answer.”
" They ’re too lost to even reckon about it . "
— u / Electronic - Plum-4472
8.“Disproportionate reactions.”
" Their reaction to most thing are normal or even scummy - tonality , but occasionally they have a vast response to something small-scale . A primal mark of trauma . "
— u / lokjasi856
9.“They look tired every time you see them.”
10.“This might be a weird one, but people who are constantly unfazed.”
" Bad things will pass off , like the kind of bad thing that make everyone freak out , and they just coast like it ’s just another normal daytime . "
— atomic number 92 / Winstonisapuppy
11.“Super independent, because they learned not to rely on anybody.”
12.“They always politely decline any kind of offer.”
" For instance , say you know they are low on money and you do n’t require to go out to eat alone , so you tender to pay for a meal for them to come with you . They may decline not because they are n’t hungry or do n’t desire to hang out with you but because they feel they do n’t merit to have their meal pay for . "
— u / Fresh_Distribution54
13.“Misappropriated anger.”
— uracil / Gonebabythoughts
14.“They wince if anyone around them moves quickly.”
— u / Clever_Mercury
15.“They apologise a lot.”
— atomic number 92 / SummerEmCat
16.“They become less responsive and hard to get a hold of.”
— u / Happy - Hearing6671
17.“When they seem less excited or stop doing things they used to love.”
— atomic number 92 / ZoraiaVnkle
18.“They nonchalantly talk about traumatising things like it’s no big deal when everyone else is horrified.”
— u / Real_Ordinary_3622 ·
19.“For me, the cleaning and house duties start slacking.”
" sweetheart stay put in the sinkhole overnight . I have n’t swept for a while . But my imitation expression is on . vivid and happy . "
— atomic number 92 / anikill
20.“When they seem to live vicariously through movies, TV, or TikTok.”
" They do n’t talk about what ’s happening to themselves , they talk about what they SAW someone else do , real or fictitious . "
— u / Greaser_Dude
21.And finally, “They read posts like this one to see if they are there.”
— uranium / Saint_of_Stinkers
Shout out tou/citizen_of_leshpandr/AskRedditfor having this discussion.
Note : Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity .
