" There ’s decidedly a lot more beyond this that ’s important , but without that element , there ’s not much hope … "
Since dating can sometimes feel like a full-time job, it makes sense why some people would have a few dating non-negotiables to help them find a partner. So when Reddit useru/rosypinksasked: “What’s a strict dating preference you have that you can’t overlook?” I thought it would be helpful to share their responses. Here’s what they had to say below:
1.“Cigarettes. Absolutely not.”
2.“Dishonesty. I would prefer someone to be upfront about who they really are instead of lying to appeal to my type of preference in a partner. It would save time for both parties in the long run!”
— u / ilikechicken1993
" Oh , jeez . I knew a guy wire like this . conversation were so hard because he would n’t partake in a single opinion or thought without me voicing my mentation first , so that he could parrot it back . It reach off the most desperate energy I ’d ever encountered . "
— u / noseferatu98
3.“Sense of humor. I could probably overlook a dozen things if someone was funny and found me funny. But if someone doesn’t share my sense of humor or doesn’t have any at all, I will overlook every other green flag because that’s just not a person I can have long, deep conversations with.”
4.“Good personal hygiene.”
— u/[deleted ]
5.“One’s living conditions should not resemble a cat box. I dated someone whose bathroom was so foul that I almost didn’t stay for sex.”
6.“They have actual values and not just preferences.”
— u / LurkingAintEazy
" You ’ve got to stick out for something or you ’ll decrease for anything . "
— atomic number 92 / Hay_Blinken
7.“I need someone who’s okay with pets. I’ve lived with pets for so long that I just don’t think I could be without them, not for anyone.”
8.“I must be physically attracted to them.”
— u / Holmesless
" There ’s definitely a lot more beyond physical attraction that ’s important , but without that element , there ’s not much Bob Hope … "
— u / djangula89
9.“Financial literacy. I’ve done quite well in life so far, and the idea of being brought down by someone with terrible finances scares me. They don’t have to be a high-earner, just smart with their money.”
10.“They have to be curious about things and enjoy learning for the sake of learning.”
11.“I’m in my late 40s and will absolutely not date ‘I’m in the process of a divorce’ kind of person. Call me when the ink is dry. Actually, a year after the ink is dry.”
12.“I’m not a casual dater so those wishy-washy ‘let’s just have fun and not call it anything until I’m ready 12 years from now’ is a no-go for me.”
— u / chinchillerino
" It feels like that ’s the landscape and standard now . It ’s hard to find someone even in their recent 20s who wants something serious and is n’t just out for a quick respectable time . "
— u / skatingonair
13.“No kids. I do not want to be a parent in any capacity.”
14.“They can’t be lazy. I learned waaaay too late in life that my relationships were so much work because I had partners who were just lazy at everything, whether it was professionally, domestically, or romantically. It’s kind of fucked up how people can want ‘commitment’ and then commit no effort.”
— u / human_male_123
15.“Being rude to servers, baristas, or retail workers is an immediate no for me.”
16.“How they handle themselves when they’re upset. Getting mad is not a free pass to treat me like shit.”
— uracil / Fuckredditlowkey
17.“They have to be reliable. Being on time for things and consistently following through with plans is a must. Of course, things happen. I won’t look down on someone for being a little late occasionally, for canceling plans because there’s been an emergency, or even for saying: ‘I’m not doing great today, can we reschedule?’ But I have a life, and I value my time. I’ve actually been told that I should be ‘more understanding’ when someone shows up two hours late and I’m already gone, or when someone cancels plans after I get to the location. It blows my mind how often I’ve discussed this with someone, just for them to say that I lack empathy.”
