" Her mum look at me with disgust and articulate , ' See , this is what happen when you have no self - awareness and bring a f — horse to a schoolhouse . ' "
You’ve heard of the r/AmItheAssholesubreddit, right?
In case you have n’t , it ’s a forum where folks share opinions about their behaviour in unlike scenario .
I recently came across thispostabout a 36-year-old English mother who let her 7-year-old daughter ride her pony to school and received a lot of backlash. As expected, the post spawned many reactions and asked if it’s okay to flaunt it if you got it. Take a look and see for yourself what went down:
“My child asked if she could ride her pony to school last week. For context, we have a small paddock attached to our home where we keep two horses, one for me and one for my child. Every morning before school, my child gets all of her pony chores done before we leave, and we normally walk to school, which takes around 20 minutes. We live on the outskirts of a fairly populated city where it’s not uncommon to see horses occasionally, but we are by no means in a rural village,” she began.
“I agreed to let my daughter ride her pony to school because I thought it was harmless fun. Also, it gives the pony some exercise as we had plans and wouldn’t be riding that evening. We arrived at the school gates and gathered a bit of a crowd, which was fine since the pony was very good and lapped up all the pats and strokes from kids,” she continued.
“One girl came bounding over and started shouting at me, saying she wanted to ride. I politely told her no because she didn’t have a riding hat and would have to learn on a safer horse. She started hysterically crying and pleading with her mum, saying she wanted to ride. Her mum looked at me with disgust and said, ‘See, this is what happens when you have no self-awareness and bring a fucking horse to a school.’ I was taken aback but ignored her, sent my child to school, and walked the pony home.”
“I was talking to my friend this weekend, and she said I was the problem, and I was blatantly showing off and should have known that this would cause problems. My response is I turn up to the school gates in jodhpurs and boots regularly, so everyone probably knows I have horses. Is that showing off, too? All I wanted to do was let my daughter do something silly and fun. I am overthinking it, though, and I am nervous about doing a school drop-off tomorrow. So am I the asshole for letting my daughter ride her horse to school?
People had so many different opinions on the matter. Some said NTA (not the A-hole), others said YTA (you’re the A-hole), and a few here and there said ESH (everyone sucks here or NAH (no A-hole here).
Mostly, the readers were on the side of the mother who let her child ride a pony to school.
" NTA . That woman blames other multitude for her clear lack of parenting skills . She has to manage her kid ’s expectations . My husband takes our daughter to school on a motorcycle , pull in the same attention without the entitled demanding a ride and unmannered reaction . Would you bringing a pup with you elicit the same responses ? I think not — YWNBTA . "
— atomic number 92 / Listen_2learn
" That cleaning woman is impregnate entitlement into her girl . Just because someone else has , she should have it too ? No , Mom works heavily to care for the horses and have horses . If the ma’am wants her girl to have a pony drive , go to a rally stable or some subway parks that do ride . But not someone ’s personal horse . "
— u / taybo213
" NTA . The other parents must teach their kid that you ca n’t always have what others have . It is a fact of life . ( And this hail from someone who grew up below the impoverishment line . ) Will they be unrestrained at another parent for driving an expensive fomite ? If I were the parent , I would tell my shaver , ' face at the pretty horsey ! But do n’t touch it unless they let you , okay . ' "
— uranium / wandering_alphabet
" Eye - catching , but there ’s nothing wrong with that . The horse is part of your lifetime . When I was old enough , my dad used to sprain up on his motorbike to give me a drive home from school . Nobody else got picked up on a moped , let alone a 750cc motorcycle . I know he was point off , and he work in a manufacturing plant , so he liked to be in the open air after his shift ended . But it was still dead nerveless . "
— u / MegC18
Some folks thought that the mother should’ve known better.
" Not an asshole for having horses or ' showing off ' about them , but YTA for induce a circus at the shoal gates . Dropping the kids to school and trying to get workplace amongst all the terrible parking , dealings chaos , and general stress is horrible enough without navigating a crowd because someone bring a blinking pony along for the hellhole of it . "
INFO ; did you really think other Kyd would not bat an eye ? ! Of naturally , they desire to tantalize the pony . "
— u / Amar_Akbar_Anthony20
" Yeah , I do n’t lie with the other parent ’s reaction , but I can sympathise with getting your kid to schooltime in the forenoon before kick the bucket to work . Then , seeing your kid freak out because there ’s a horse there and just being like , ' screw , I do n’t need this morning . Who brings a horse to school day ? ' "
— atomic number 92 / Right_Count
" THIS ! ! ! ! Like clear , the other parent overreacted , but I think OP is a bit clueless . And to say ' wearing riding clothes to pick up ' is the same thing as bringing a HORSE to pickup " is a bit much . I feel forged for the other ma , even though she clearly overstepped , and also bad for the teacher . That ’s a sight to parcel out with for the start of the day . "
— atomic number 92 / Sassy_Weatherwax
Other people faulted everyone involved.
" Yep , I ’m on the fencing between NAH and ESH . Obviously , exhibit up with a horse will have a Brobdingnagian tiff and potentially some issues , but equally , the other parent postulate to instruct her child to take no for an answer . The other parent sucks slightly more than OP , but neither has covered themselves in aureole … "
— u / Potential - Savings-65
" I suppose , regardless of who is the arsehole here or whether there is an bunghole at all , this was a not - so - sassy decisiveness on OP ’s part . "
— u / Nadamir
But then some folks gave everyone the benefit of a doubt.
" I remember I fall on NAH . Bringing the knight to school was guarantee to do a squabble among a bunch of little kids . That does n’t mean it ’s improper that you did it ; I think it was very predictable that at least one kid would get scared , upset they could n’t ride it , get in a tizzy , etc . , and this could trigger thwarting in a parent .
If you were not anticipating that , I would agree with the want of self - awareness . And plainly , show up with a whole cavalry differs from designate up in jods and boots .
I intend you ’re okay to do it , but if / when a shaver flips out and a parent get nark , you have to roll with that as an outcome of bringing a cavalry around a crew of petty kids . "
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