" I showed him my word picture from eighth grade , and he could n’t handle that I used to look like I did in eighth grade . "
Note : This story talk over aroused abuse and suicide .
While all romantic relationships should be a safe space to have open and honest discussions, sometimes confessing something vulnerable can make one partner call it quits.
So when Reddit useru/AdditionalDentist100asked: “What’s something you confessed to your partner that ended your relationship?” a lot of people provided their own personal experiences. Here’s what they had to say below:
1.“I confessed that I wanted to do more for her. I thought I was neglecting her and working too much. That next week, she sat me down and told me that I was threatening her independence and that she needed a week to think about us. The week after that, she broke up with me.”
" I after got the veridical reason from her former estimable friend : She never had a guy who want ' all in ' like I did and panic . "
— u / Salty - Technology8912
2.“I didn’t want us to move in together with six other relatives.”
3.“I told him that I was starting therapy because of my mental health issues. Our relationship didn’t end immediately, but he started being very cold afterwards. He was mad that I went to a therapist instead of just thinking more positively, even though that’s not how mental health works. In his opinion, therapists are just manipulative assholes who try to get money from people and make up mental disorders.”
— u / reallymimsi
4.“A new partner and I did a mutual STI testing so we could start skipping the condom (I’m snipped). Theirs came back positive for trich; I hadn’t gotten my results back yet. They got really overly apologetic about it and really shamed themselves for it, and it made me sad. So I tried to remind them that condoms aren’t perfect, and they very well could’ve gotten it from me. But they didn’t let up, they kept saying it was their fault, and they were so sorry for exposing me. I sat them down and laid out my whole sexual history since my last test in hopes they would stop shaming themselves for getting what is basically the mildest STI imaginable. They broke up with me the next day. Said they couldn’t protect their sexual health around someone so promiscuous. My test came back negative for trich.”
5.“When I was 16, I told my boyfriend I was a virgin, and he called me a hoe and broke up with me.”
— atomic number 92 / lipglossy336
6.“It’s not necessarily what I confessed, but I showed him my picture from eighth grade, and he couldn’t handle that I used to look like I did in eighth grade.”
7.“I cried in front of her about my grandpa dying, and she never saw me the same way anymore.”
— u / Cloutweb1
8.“That I was joining the Navy. I needed to get out of my hometown and state; she wanted to stay and become a teacher. I have never hated us or our relationship, it was our first relationship. I met up with her recently. She is now married to a hell of a guy and has a kid on the way. (He’s also really intoWarhammer, and we have a game going on in a couple of days).”
9.“I said while crying because he got angry with me at a restaurant: ‘I am sometimes afraid to tell you how I feel because I’m afraid of how you’ll react.’ And he said, ‘Well, that’s fucking pathetic.'”
— atomic number 92 / internetgoth
" My better half had a habit of protrude a convo by enquire how I felt about something , then would criticise me for feel what I feel . It always end up being a debate about why I feel the way I did . It was never okay for me to feel lamentable , worried , scared , etc .
Over meter , I start to finger anxious when he ’d ask questions and purposely responded mistily , or just straight up said that I did n’t find comfy sharing ( which would incite anger or more judgment ) .
Eventually , my response became exactly that . A teary ' I do n’t know if I want to share because I ’m worried about how you ’ll react / respond , ' and his response were along the lines of ' that ’s stupid , ' ' you ’re ridiculous , ' ' do n’t be an idiot , ' or ' seriously ? '
I do n’t have it off if it ’s because I got so used to it , or from being distracted by all the other bigger things in the relationship , but for some reason , I did n’t even find that this was another uncollectible thing until reading this comment . It was just … normal . "
— u / alexanteros
10.“I told her my work schedule. A lot of people don’t seem to be okay with a four-on-four-off schedule because it’s an eight-day week. One month, I’m working weekends, the next month I’m off on the weekend.”
11.“That the autism diagnosis I went for came back positive. ‘I can’t cope with that,’ she said. To be honest, she couldn’t even cope with the dishes either.”
— u / sQueezedhe
" I do n’t understand why people mean getting a diagnosing immediately changes someone . They are the exact same person they were before the diagnosing .
They get diagnosed , and then treatment option open up up , and they can then settle whether they want to pursue them or not .
I got diagnose with Bipolar Disorder in 2015 , and one of my friends abruptly became really aloof as ' she no longer feel good around me . ' girlfriend , if I go manic , I ’m going to be too preoccupied researching Pluto and the history of spiders to be tearing . "
— u / Orri
12.“I broke down crying during a more realistic war movie. She told me to suck it up. After she confronted me for drinking too much, I finally sought VA disability. Diagnosed with depression, PTSD, anxiety, among other things. Bills started pouring in, and I told her we couldn’t afford certain luxury things because I was the sole breadwinner. I said I felt like I was drowning and my head was slowly slipping under the surface. She told me to ‘figure it out.’ So, I did. We divorced. And I’m much happier and no longer on the train of ‘be a man and tighten your bootstraps.’ I got help and know that it’s okay to do so.”
13.“My friend was telling us that she threatened to kill herself if her boyfriend broke up with her. I said this was toxic and that I wouldn’t kill myself if my boyfriend broke up with me. My boyfriend broke up with me the next day because apparently not wanting to kill myself meant that my love for him was not true.”
— u / suibian
14.“She found out I had health problems with my heart. Had a major heart attack and had to stay in the hospital for a few days, got a little better, and the hospital got overcrowded, so I got sent home ‘cause my girlfriend would be there to watch for any signs of a problem. Well, I had another heart attack, and she left in the middle of it. Just said, ‘I cant.'”
If you ’re in need of talk to a genial wellness professional , theNational Alliance on Mental Illnesshelpline is 1 - 888 - 950 - 6264 ( NAMI ) and allow data and referral services;GoodTherapy.orgis an association of genial health professionals from more than 25 countries who support efforts to reduce harm in therapy .
If you or someone you know is struggling with substance abuse , you’re able to call SAMHSA ’s National Helpline at 1 - 800 - 662 - assist ( 4357 ) and recover more resourceshere .
