" When the doer took it out for me , the girl started squall and crying . The mother did initially ask if I could leave the axial motion for her , but I say that I ordered first . "
If you’re here, you’re probably familiar with the famous “Am I The Asshole?“subreddit.
If not , it ’s a place for people to come and get vox populi on their behaviour in certain situations .
“My pregnant wife (our first!) messaged me at the end of my work shift that she had sudden cravings for cake, and I was more than happy to get her one. Unfortunately, as this was close to 6 p.m., the bakery only had a Swiss roll left in terms of cake.”
“As I was selecting a few other breads, a mother and her daughter came in, and the girl noticed the Swiss roll in the display cabinet and shouted that she wanted it. However, I had already ordered it, and when the worker took it out for me, the girl started screaming and crying. The mother did initially ask if I could leave the roll for her, but I said that I ordered first. She then began getting extremely demanding, saying I didn’t need to eat it, saying I should feel for a kid and was selfish, etc. The shouting only stopped when the worker said I had come first and ordered it before the mother and daughter had even walked in.”
“I got home and told my wife about the incident. She said that I was a bit of an asshole for not giving up the cake for the kid and that she would have understood if the store had no more since I did buy other sweet bread or that I could have gone to the supermarket instead. She also asked why I didn’t tell the mother I was buying it for a pregnant wife with cravings. I didn’t see the need to share private info, but my wife said that maybe the mother would have understood and that I appeared insensitive by sticking to ‘ordering first’ as my argument.”
“We did end up enjoying the Swiss roll, and she told me not to worry and just be more mindful next time, but I can’t help but feel a bit guilty. Was I the asshole for denying a kid a cake she wanted?”
People responded in a bunch of different ways. Some said, yes, YTA (you’re the A-hole), NTA (not the A-hole), ESH (everyone sucks here), and NAH (no A-hole here).
For the most part, it looks like people thought they were justified in saying no.
" You were get your meaning married woman something for a craving . I can tell you that I did a net ton of driving and offhanded tally during both maternity when my married woman had cravings . I did it because I wanted to and knew it would make her well-chosen . I may be being petty here ….. but your wife is kind of an AH for name you ' kind of an AH ' when you were cause a run for her . It is n’t like you were nasty to the kid or anything like that . "
— u/1u53r3dd1 t
" This stuff spend a penny me off . What are you learn your small fry with this sort of behaviour ? That they can always have what they want and are so special they can deprive someone else of it even if they got their first ? If you require to , you would , but if you don’t … well , it ’s life , is n’t it ? We do n’t always get what we require . The female parent ’s response is very telling about why the child behaves that agency … . "
— u / hausofmc
" Depending on how young or neurodivergent the young woman is , she should know how to behave . Her mother was TA for demand you to give it to them and getting nettle up . I can read where your wife was make out from , but the female parent ’s behavior is inexcusable and incredibly rude . That was your cake and your choice of what you did with it . She should have observe that . "
— atomic number 92 / Complex_Sundae2551
But then, some thought the person should have given up the cake.
" You had every right to continue buying the Swiss Roll , but unless you have a finical liking for them or this store is much better than other places , I would also have think getting something else . That said , I also see nothing improper with explaining . I think your wife has a expert overall approach . "
— uracil / TheTightEnd
" ESH , kinda . mum was out of line for endeavor to guilt OP , but I ’d have permit the tike have the bar . "
— u / Socknitter1
They also thought “ordering first” was a poor excuse to tell the mom.
" YTAH for not saying it was for your pregnant married woman and instead posit that ' you ordered first . ' "
— uracil / motaboat
" Yeah , for not telling the mom it ’s for your meaning wife . "
— atomic number 92 / johnnySix
mention : Some responses have been edited for duration and/or clearness .
