" My parent were confused as to why we were move their stuff into the service department . I state them that was where they were staying . "

So you know about the famous r/AmItheAssholesubreddit.

If not , it ’s a place for people to come and get opinions about their behavior in sure situations .

I recently came acrossone postwhere someone offered their parents their converted garage and said they could move into a nursing home if they didn’t like it. As you can imagine, the post generated strong reactions from readers, but it’s more complex than it sounds. Check it out and judge for yourself what happened:

“My parents have recently asked me if they can move in with me. I agreed and talked to my kids to let them know that if they came for a visit, the garage was taken, so they would have to stay in the house. My parents showed up on the appointed day, and the kids showed up with their families to help get them moved in. And they actually had already arranged a hotel for one family so we would not be crowded. My parents were confused as to why we were moving their stuff into the garage. I told them that was where they were staying,” they continued.

“They said that they thought they could move into my house, since I have five bedrooms. I explained that I actually have two bedrooms, since one room is my office, where I see clients, one is my private office, and one is my hobby room. The spare bedroom is mostly for my mutts. They said that they wanted to live in the house, not out in the garage like Fonzie. I said it was a take-it-or-leave-it situation. If they didn’t want the garage, they could move into a nursing home or something. They are upset that they are living RENT-FREE in a private guesthouse that is fully up to code.”

People had a lottttt of different thoughts on the situation. Some readers said no, NTA (not the A-hole). Some said definitely, YTA (you’re the A-hole). Others voted ESH (everyone sucks here), and few said NAH (no A-hole here).

For the most part, readers seemed to side with the original poster.

" Wow , your parents are spoiled . A economic rent - free , up - to - code flat sound pretty sweet . If it is n’t honorable enough for them , then they can make other arrangements . But if you let them into your main home , it will become their house . And you wo n’t be able to get away from them . NTA . "

— u / YouthNAsia63

" NTA . If it ’s a win over guesthouse that ’s completely up to codification , I do n’t see a reason that they would want to go into the home , as everything you have in the house , you have in the guesthouse , too . My champion recently turn her shed into a beautiful guesthouse , with kitchen contrivance , a individual bath , the works . Her parents are currently living there , and they do n’t have a problem with it . They like the privateness , and they care being close to their youngster . "

A woman relaxing on a couch

— u / Snoo-53572

" They wanted into the chief house for you to be their James Cook , maid , and carer . In the guesthouse , they have to fend for themselves . "

— uranium / No_Noise_5733

An older man in a seat with his hand covering his face, with a woman sitting next to him

Others faulted both of them.

" ESH for not clarifying all this information before moving . "

— u / Careless - Ability-748

" Why would they not know this before they showed up with their stuff ? ESH . "

An upset woman wearing a hoodie and sitting in a chair

— u / Narrow - Moose-2565

" When someone ask if they can move in with you , they are asking to endure WITH you , not adjacent to you . They were expecting to be care for , most likely , which is normal in a lot of culture — maybe it is in yours or maybe not . Regardless , communicating matters . Somehow you told the kids more than the people moving in . "

— u / cyrfuckedmymum

Some said they were absolutely the one in the wrong.

" I imagine I ’m going against the grain , but YTA . peradventure it ’s because I jazz my parents with all my sum , and in the culture I get up in , you take guardianship of the elders . But I can infer how your parent thought they would be exist inside your house with you , and especially when you be by yourself and have five bedrooms , that they would get one . It ’s also intelligible that they might experience like foreigner . I would give anything to my parent , and it ’s not only about moving in with you rent - free . You ’re making them look like moochers . It ’s about spending the rest of their time on this planet with their daughter , creating memories and everything . "

— u / Nina_kupenda

" YTA . Not for the fling but for a complete and utter nonstarter to communicate . And now you ’re menace them about moving to a nursing home because you do n’t understand that they need some time to get over the surprisal ? "

— u / Big_Alternative_3233

" YTA . I get it . It ’s your house . FIVE bedrooms , and your PARENTS ca n’t have one ? Why do n’t you make the garage space your client meeting space ? "

— u / becamico

But then people also defended them and the parents.

" NAH here ; OP cave in them a perfectly reasonable option , but OP should have been more cleared about what was and was n’t being offer up . "

— u / mxzf

Note : Some submissions have been lightly edited for length and/or uncloudedness .