" I am in New Orleans now and he is boast up my speech sound … "
Look, I’m not married. But I’d always thought that if I was, I’d want to spend most (if not all) of my vacations with my spouse.
At least, that was until I stumbled acrossthis postin the “Am I The Asshole” subreddit, where a woman flew off to enjoy her holiday without her spouse. Here’s the full story:
FYI , roentgen / AmItheAssholeis an on-line channel in Reddit where mass involve others to tell them whether or not they ’re being an asshole in a situation .
“My husband and I planned a week-long vacation to New Orleans. We (but mostly I) have been planning this for months.”
“Back in March, I told him I would plan most of it — like where to go and what to do. All he had to do was make sure he had the week off and buy the plane tickets. I spent the last few months researching activities. I booked the hotel room, made reservations at places we wanted to try, and made a list of all the sights I wanted to see.”
“Every few weeks, I would check in with my husband to see if he had asked for time off and bought the tickets yet. He would always say he was waiting for the plane ticket prices to go down. Three weeks ago, I reminded him again, and he said he had gotten time off work for the days but had forgotten to get the tickets. He looked online, and the tickets were close to $1,500 per ticket. He said he was going to wait some more to see if they would go down.”
“Last week, I asked if he had bought the tickets yet, and he said no. We looked again, and the prices were still high. He said he wasn’t willing to spend that much on them and asked how much money I would lose if I just cancelled everything. He offered to have a nice staycation instead.”
“I told him I was not willing to cancel everything, because I spent so much time planning it. We argued and didn’t come to a conclusion. I wound up buying just one ticket for myself and when I flew out Saturday, I told him I was still going. He acted all surprised that I didn’t want to stay home with him.”
“I am in New Orleans now and he is blowing up my phone saying that I am an asshole for still going without him. He was trying to get a ticket to come too but I told him if he came, he’d have to get his own hotel room, because this is now my vacation away from him. AITA?”
Naturally, people hada lot of thoughts.
If you ’re not conversant with the lingo , people sometimes vote with the following abbreviations : YTA ( you ’re the A - hole ) , NTA ( not the A - hole ) , ESH ( everyone suck here ) , or NAH ( no A - hole here ) .
Most people said that the original poster (OP) was not an A-hole.
" NTA . I do n’t know what your married man ’s deal is , but he acted like a existent asshole . I do n’t know if he deliberately undermine the tripper or just did n’t care enough to pursue through on his petite piece of thing , but you were perfectly right to not let him ruin the head trip for you , and he indisputable as hell should n’t be booking an expensive plane ticket to come unite you now . I desire he ’ll be ready with a massive apology when you get home . "
— u / Outrageously_Penguin
" IDK WTF is up with this line of thinking [ waiting for the ticket prices to drip ] . In my experience , the closer the flight is the more expensive the tickets are . For the gimcrack ticket you really need to book as far out as you may . Waiting until the last arcminute is just asking to pay a massive agio … "
— atomic number 92 / Emu1981
" He absolutely did not desire to go and blames it on you for not scratch . He ’s the A - hole . Go have fun OP . Make the best out of your trip ! "
— u / airplainesnightsky
But some thought everybody sucked in this situation:
" I ’m leaning towards ESH . It sounds like you want to take an extremely expensive holiday and he was uncomfortable with the costs but did n’t commune that with you ( though I imagine he did since he was n’t unforced to spend a preposterously high damage for aeroplane slate ) .
You ’re NTA for lead on the holiday alone , but that does n’t protect you from the very genuine consequences of that . Your hubby will sense as abandoned as you feel ignored , and you might be coming home to a wedding that is very different from how you result it . You ca n’t just trench your spouse for a workweek and expect everything to be peachy cracking when you get back . "
— u / ArcaneManifest
" You probably should ’ve expend the money on divorce lawyers or else , because this is where it ’s headed . Do you guys even like each other ? Lol . You ’re both act somewhat childish and immature , despite being married . This marriage is on its room out if you ’re not already planning a divorce . "
— uranium / Winter188
And some thought OP was the A-hole:
" YTA . I ’m going to get downvoted for saying it , but there it is . Do you really think you will still have a relationship when you get back ? Most of the people on here will downvote this because they will say something like ' you go , queen ' or ' good on you , fille ' or that was a ' boss move ' .
These people have no skin in the game and could care less if you ruin your liveliness listening to their selfish advice . I get being untune that he did n’t grab a ticket when he should have , but telling him that if he come , he demand to book his own hotel is a bit overboard . Unless this is an one-time relationship , I just do n’t see it regain from this . I sure would n’t stay if it was me . "
— uracil / Diludadd
Personally, I don’t think she did anything wrong — in fact, she’s been a lot more patient than I would have been. I do think she should probably seek some couples counseling if she wants to stay with her husband (which isn’t a given), but in the meantime, this course of action makes sense to me.
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