Had I known some death - of - life symptom were completely normal , some fear and emphasis may have been alleviate .
Recently,a videoby@hospicenurseulie, a hospice nurse who educates about death and dying, went extremely viralfor teaching people about the actively dying phase, which is the last phase of life.
Juliediscussedsymptoms someone in the actively dying phase might experience that may look scary, but are completely normal — like thedeath rattle, the “rally,” and “fish-out-of-water” breathing.
Julie admitted that most people she sees are scared of death and dying, so by educating about the final stages of life, we can better be there for ourselves and our loved ones.
Julie’s insight helped millions of people understand the last phase of life — but now I wanted to know from you — if you witnessed the last moments of a loved one, what’s something you wish you would have known beforehand?
For me, witnessing the loss of my grandma, I assumed that she was in a ton of pain once she was in hospice since she was no longer getting intensive care, which made me fearful and stressed. Later, after she passed, I learned that many of the symptoms she was having were quite normal, and weren’t actually causing her pain.
Maybe for you, you witnessed your loved one go through a “rally” — where they started walking around and talking like their old selves — only to be devastated days later when they passed. You thought they were getting better, and you wish you had known then what end-of-life rallies were.
Perhaps for you, you were in “caretaker” mode for your loved one for a while, so you were mostly prepared for end-of-life care. However, you were not prepared for the feeling of grief that would follow. You thought your loved one passing was something you could pre-process and move forward from, but you realized grief doesn’t really go away, it just shapes and molds into different forms.
Had I known some end-of-life symptoms were completely normal, some fear and stress may have been alleviated.
